why hello awesome people of the earth.
in response to some of your comments, i'm not sure if i wanna make a new blog for it. i'm considering starting an email chain and just sending you guys different sections, kinda like other people do.
in response to sky, i have never seen that face before.
i'll keep you guys posted on whatever i decide to do.
this weekend was quite... interesting.
in a lot of different ways.
today's rant-thing-question-whatever of the day:
when is the point that you become friends with someone?
is it when they friend you on facebook?
is it when you meet?
is it when you find that one thing the two of you have in common?
is it when you get your first inside joke?
i know it varies for most people, but i've noticed that some people seem to become friends with someone over the same kind of thing every time.
so i'm just curious.
i've been meeting new people lately, so it's something i've been thinking about.
when is the point that i can say someone's my friend and not have them feel weird and all "omg she things i'm her friend but we're not...".
because that is just awk.
i feel like there should be an equation for something like this. like when you've had this many inside jokes and laughed this much.
if you think that's a good idea, then you need to read An Abundance of Katherines by John Green.
just saying.
anyway, back on topic.
do you guys think i'm overthinking it?
i've always been bad at irl relationships. i have problems being myself and not being who i think that person wants me to be.
which has never helped with the whole friend thing.
so, in the comments, leave me your opinions.
peace,love,andgummybears
First of all, that was an awesome book. Second, I think you know that you're really friends with someone when you can have an awkward silence, without it really being awkward. But that's just me. As to the point that you actually become friends... maybe it's when you first complete each other's thoughts? You know?
ReplyDeleteIf you do the email thing, I'd like to get the emails :)
ReplyDeleteand about being friends. I consider people my friends when I can go up to them at lunch at school and eat with them without feeling awkward.
Or when I know someone is comfortable with me being near and not talking to them. (I'm really really introverted) My friends don't feel weird if I sit with them and don't say anything.
I just ask casually. "Hey, we're friends now, right?" Any sort of enthusiastic positive response is good. Any sort of hesitation and negative response means time to run. :)
ReplyDeleteI consider people as my friends when I can talk to them easily (which I don't usually do, since I'm shy) and sit with them at lunch.
ReplyDeleteI've been subjected to a lot of new people to, recently, what with being a new kid and all and I too have struggled to define a 'friend'. So far, my friends have been people I spend more time with than I do with others and that conversations generally tend to flow with them.
ReplyDeleteIn the words of Feathers, "I wish life would have a Facebook notification telling you when you're friends with someone." Sure would make our lives a whole lot easier.